Thinking about Valentine’s Day coming up got me to thinking about relationships and what makes them successful. About a month ago I took a poll on my Facebook page asking fellow Facebookers to finish this sentence: “Every successful relationship is successful because . . .” Here are the top 7 Keys To A Successful Relationship:
- They communicate with each other. I have found that communication is the number one factor that relationships fail. If you aren’t communicating then the rest of these reasons are pointless. I could go on and on about the importance of communication in successful relationships but I’m sure you get the picture.
- They work at the relationship. All successful relationships take work we all know that and the ones that mean the most and last the longest are the ones that we devote time and effort into. Almost like a seed, if you don’t plant it in soil, water it, give it sunlight it will never grow. You have to “feed” relationships and that takes work.
- They GIVE as much as they TAKE. Isn’t it funny how a relationship between two people would mean you would need to do what the other person wants? Who would have thought! A successful relationship, unless with yourself, needs to be about both parties. Sitting and watching a movie he enjoys with blood, guts and a whole lot of cursing and then him walking around target for two hours as you explore every…..single…..aisle. (Can’t miss a good deal)
- They support each other. Without the support of your best friend, essentially your significant other who else will be your cheerleader? Are you going to resent your partner because they didn’t support you in your latest endeavor, well of course! That does not mean that if they tell you jumping off that cliff is probably not one of your best and brightest of ideas means they don’t support you that one is just them caring about you. I always like to say I’m a dreamer, always have been always will be and my creativity can sometimes take over my reality. The hubby on the other hand, he’s very grounded and realistic. We work well together because I’m a kite flying high in the air and he is the rock I am tied to so I don’t blow away in the wind. He supports be by standing by me but also reminds me to put my feet on the ground every once in a while.
- They seek God together. In our relationship I am the more faith based one because I grew up in the church and the hubby did not. He is learning through my faith. There have been many times in our relationship where money was short, or someone was super sick and the only thing to do was have faith and know that with God all things are possible and he will always provide. So by together having a firm knowledge of where we are in our faith leads us to have a healthy and successful relationship.
- They choose to be together though the good and bad. You have to choose to be together and not go running the first time that the waves get a little rocky. My husband and I both do not believe in divorce. That being said what we believe is that the above ways to have a successful relationship are keys to making a marriage work. If you think about it though all good things in life need work, many things get worse before they get better but you will never find out if you file the big D and bail.
- They laugh and have fun together. The hubs and I are masters at this one. Sometimes I can take myself a little too seriously and he knows exactly what buttons to push. I tell people that two things I love most about my hubby are his hugs first and foremost (they just make me melt) and his sense of humor. Random outbursts of non-sense are quite common in the Snyder house and our middle son, Landon, is following right in his daddy’s footsteps. They aren’t happy unless you’re laughing with them.
How would you finish the sentence: ”Every successful relationship is successful because…”