The definition of lavish according to google is:
1.sumptuously rich, elaborate, or luxurious.“a lavish banquet”
synonyms: sumptuous, luxurious, costly, expensive, opulent, grand, splendid, rich, fancy, posh;informalfancy-schmancy“lavish parties”
Today I was told I live a lavish life and it stopped me in my tracks. Not because of it’s truth or lack there of but of the clear offense I took to such an opinion someone has of me. As my mom always says “consider the source” when it comes to what others may say but it causes me to reflect on my life and the many blessings I am so grateful to have acquired over my life.
Growing up we weren’t poor but we weren’t wealthy either. We went on few vacations and my clothing was either hand-me-downs from family friends or from K-Mart or Walmart. I would get the occasional outfit from Aeropostale and thought that was the best thing ever, but all in all I never did without and we were comfortable.
Now, as an adult, I look back and reflect on my journey to where I am today and how I got here.
2015 was a very rough year for the Hubs and I. We recently moved to a new house that we rented for more money than our apartment. I had finally convinced the Hubs to let me be a stay at home mom and just babysit for a few friends and family to make ends meet. I left a full time salary position in February 2015.
In July of that same year, the Hubs lost his full time job of nearly 10 years due to his position being eliminated. He was promised a severance package that we only received in September after threatening a lawsuit.
I don’t even remember the number of times our cable and electric had been shut off during those few months. Cars broke down. Bills needed paid. My car actually hit the repo list and family helped save our butts by giving us some money to make the back payment.
I strongly believe we got through that period, the lowest period in our adult lives, by prayer and knowing God will provide.
By August the Hubs found a job he loves still to this day and my business with Thirty-One expanded and flourished. I hustled to get those orders and then to expand my team. I worked and advertised to gain more students at my dance studio kicking back up in September.
We truly know the meaning of hard work in this house. And now with my different business ventures and the Hub’s full time work, we are able to afford things, we may not have before. But we didn’t get here without shedding some tears. Or without hustling, putting ourselves out there and stepping out of comfort zones.
Actually after our 2015 year of struggles and hardships, I feel our family is better for it and our marriage benefited from having to lean on each other and be 100% transparent with one another. One day was my turn to be sad and the Hubs would re-assure me everything would be okay and the next day would be my day to be optimistic for the both of us.
Now that we have come out of that hole we have little to no debt and we live comfortably, if this is a lavish life then I’m livin’ in up baby! I am rich in love, overflowing with laughter, with a wealth of smiles, bubbles, dirty hands and feet. Money isn’t what makes my life lavish, its the people in it that does!