I recently read an article about the correlation between depression and house clutter. I found this article particularly interesting because in it, it states, that “a link between high cortisol (stress hormone) levels in female home owners and a high density of household objects. The more stuff, the more stress women feel. Men, on the other hand, don’t seem bothered by mess, which accounts for tensions between tidy wives and their clutter bug hubbies.” Wow doesn’t that hit the nail right on the head!!!
There are days I look around, my bedroom imparticular, and I am just disgusted. My side of the bedroom, yes we have sides and it works for us, my night stand has a cup on it from the night before several books and a folded wash pile sitting in front of my dresser. We will get to the not put away wash in another post.
Then you look to his side of the room: unfolded wash on top of his dresser just waiting to fall over into a landslide of t-shirts and underwear, the random rolled up sock next to the bed and two or three others laying around the dirty wash basket, his night stand covered in empty soda cans, a plate from whatever snack he brought to bed and some candy wrappers with a possible water bottle lying next to the bed. Get the picture? I am not one to let well enough alone, on days that his side of the room looks like that I go around with a trash bag and collect the necessary items and tidy things up. It makes me wonder why I even fold his laundry anyway.
I know that he won’t let his side of the room look like that for more than a day or two but our constant struggle within our relationship is that when I want things done I want them done in my time and my way. Again another blessing and a curse on my part. I love my hubs and there is no one I’d rather tidy up after but Lord have mercy boy put your damn sock IN the wash basket not next to it.
Within this interesting article was a list of “solutions” to the decluttering and destressing of your home. So since they gave their ideas, so I thought I’d share mine.
- Do a daily “House Walk” – I read about this in another article and I will share more about this in another post. However, the basic of the “House Walk” is each evening you take a basket or box maybe even an empty pillow case, collect the items that are in the wrong rooms throughout the house, such as the random cups on night stands and as you go from room to room you are decluttering just that little bit to put everything back in it’s place.
- When in doubt toss it out – Growing up my mom kept EVERY . . . SINGLE . . . slip of paper the school ever sent home, every drawing on a napkin, and every homework paper . I never knew she had kept all of my Picasso esque drawings from 4th grade art class until we moved from my childhood home. Parents: your kid could careless that they got a “good Job” written on their math paper from 1st grade or the random coloring page the librarian had them color to pass the time during Library. Save yourself (and your child) from the clutter. Toss it! My kids could careless that I got 100% on my 2nd grade weekly spelling test and neither will yours.
- Everything has it’s place – Every item when brought into the home has a place, (Christmas and Birthday gifts are another story). When you bring items into your home there needs to be a purpose, period. At the end of your “House Walk” each day all of those things need to be put in their place.
- Teach your kids to help – Many parents, myself included, feel the only way to get things done is to do it themselves. By not teaching out children at a young age to put THEIR toys in their place is doing ourselves, our children and society a disservice. Children need to learn responsibility at a young age and why not save your own sanity but enlisting your mini-army of well abled bodies to put items away. It’ll save you time in the long run once this is learned.